The next time you log into Instagram, clock the number of selfies you see across your timeline. If happiness is equivalent to uploads, it’s safe to assume that being pretty is parallel to being happy. In a nutshell, the pretty girls truly must be the happiest. But studies have debunked that theory and proved that an unorthodox number of selfies typically reveal how vain and insecure a person really is.

Somehow, we’ve made it harder for ourselves in the case of realism and happiness: our success online is often tied to how we look and seem that day as opposed to if our priorities are straight, thus allowing us to sometimes blur the lines between real life and fantasy. For women who are less than pretty, being online often grants a different experience — their photos may receive little to no likes, comments, or worse, are blasted on major websites like World Star Hip Hop so that they may be ridiculed for weeks in front of the entire world. Both experiences — for the “pretty girls” and less than pretty ones — is unfair, increase pressure to be “on” and do not speak the truths that any of us live on a daily basis.

So how do we challenge this monster? By questioning what seems real and creating our own standards of beauty, authenticity, and a sense of what truly matters. When we’re not careful, social media and the Internet can allow us to depict stories that aren’t aligned with our truths or desires. Online, where selfies run flawlessly and in high numbers, the pretty girls are happy (and in many cases, their happiness may be real and valid), but the real life truth is that happy girls are indeed the prettiest.

Feeling like a real pretty girl right now?

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